A little stage fright???

So today I am going to help lead worship at Elmbrook. And I think
for the first time ever, I am a little nervous! I think mostly because
I am trying to harmonize to songs I am not fully comfortable with.
I am afraid that I will be so busy trying to find the harmony that I
won't be able to truly worship. I guess if it gets too difficult, I
will just fall into the melody. Being on the stage isn't really scary,
I have done that before...it's more if I will be comfortable enough
with the harmony to let go of the "notes" and just give up my voice to
Him. If you've never truly experienced the Holy Spirit while you worship
in song...I challenge each of you to let yourself go the next time you
are singing in church. Close your eyes, lift your hand to the heavens
and sing with abandon. Allow yourself to feel the sweet feeling of calm
that will fill your heart. It happens. I have faith it will.
So for those of you going out tonight---partying, drinking and whatever else,
please be careful. Drive safe, if you can't-stay where you are at and sleep.
Think of the year past...all of the good and all of the bad and how it can
shape you and prepare you for the next steps in your life. Think of the year
ahead...all of the promise and opportunities that are waiting for you.
God is faithful and He is going to be there for you--don't wait to turn to Him
and make Him the guide of your life!
God Bless!

So much to tell...

The 23rd was so wonderful. It was so fun just to hang out with Crystal
and her sisters and Jeremy. A family friend brought their daughter over
too, so the boys and Jeremy had fun playing with her. We laughed and
ate, opened gifts, wrote thank you's, talked about things going on in her
life. Crystal and I email just about everyday and talk on the phone a few
times a week...but it was nice to just hang out and socialize with them
all. Marlon, Jordyn, Isaiah, Elijah and Israel came along and it was a
great bonding time for our family as well. It warms my heart to see my
kids give and share...devote themselves to helping others. I will not
soon forget that day and the time we shared. I hope it was as meaningful
for them as it was for us. For all of you who helped make the day
possible...please know that I know God will bless you tremendously for
your willingness to give and share with others.

Crystal

Crystal is amazing. It's so odd how she is so responsible and grown. At
20 she is handling so much more than most of us could. And yet, when given
the chance to just hang out and have fun, she really is still just a kid at
heart. She needs encouragement, love and support-just like any of us.
And oh yes, she loved the Karoake machine!! And she has a very nice voice.

The Diva Sisters!!

Left to right: Kayla, Candise and Iesha. These girls are a trip! So
smart and funny, grown beyond their years, but also just young girls
excited about gifts, food, music and fun! It was so nice to see them
just hang out and be kids-singing, coloring, reading...God is so good!

The Christmas Tree and all the blessings...

Here is the Green Christmas tree and all of the wonderful gifts they were
given. Penfield Children's Center, Jeremy's daycare, brought over some
great household gifts--this will come in so handy with a potential move in
the next month. I don't post this as a zoo exhibit, to oooh and aaah over.
I post this as testament to what the body of Christ can accomplish for
someone they will probably never meet...simply because of their love and
compassion for people and their servant hearts!

Meet Jeremy...

Here is Jeremy, Crystal's son, who so many of you helped make a wonderful
Christmas for. See that smile? I can't even explain in words the utter
blessing it was to spend the afternoon with Crystal, Kayla, Candise, Iesha
and Jeremy. To see them smile and hear their laughter. To watch them
interact with both affection and irritation...just as true family often does.
So many pictures to share...I will get to them all.

Is Life a Race?

This picture isn't of anyone I know, but I really like it because
it reminds me of how life should not be. Too often we are always
busy, running, hurrying to get things done...move onto the next
task...check something off of our to do list. For what?
Don't get me wrong, I know that there are responsibilities and
things that we need to attend to. But I truly believe that we
don't often enough just sit and be. Think, pray, love, enjoy.
Last night there were a million things that could have been done.
Our house is in quite disarray from wrapping and decorating, there
is always tons of laundry to work on, several phone calls I could
have returned, a tub that desperately needs scouring...and I left
it. Instead, we all ate dinner at the table-Marlon and I watched
this gameshow that we love, the boys and I played Monopoly Jr. and
I helped them all take showers.
It was such a relaxed evening and right before Christmas it felt
great. Take those times. Don't put off the love. Put off the
laundry.

I love the movie Elf!

What fun we had tonight! The boys and I went to church where they
were showing the movie Elf for the teen helpers. My friend Alison
is the teen helper coordinator and invited me to bring the boys.
I love that movie and it was very cool how they incorporated some
scriptural truth to the movie-about our need to belong and fit in,
and how sometimes we judge a book by it's cover, AND how we shouldn't
need to see to believe. Of course, it misses the point of Christmas
being Jesus's birth and not Santa, but that can be correlated for kids
and sometimes it's just fun to enjoy something and then talk about how
it's fun...but to remember that Christmas spirit isn't Santa--it's Christ!
There were also Christmas cookies, which of course the boys loved!
Marlon is in Indiana with his Pops. A close friend of Pops passed away
and he wanted to go to the funeral. I think it's great that Marlon was
able to take him and get to spend that alone time with Pops. I know
Pops really appreciates it. He will be home very very late tomorrow.
Tomorrow the boys and I have some shopping to do and then we have to go
to church for Secret Service day. This is a new initiative we started to
try and get the congregation more involved in volunteering and service.
They are hoping to do this several times a year. They have partnered with
agencies in the community that needed our help with Christmas projects and
then brought them to the church to ask for help getting it done. There are
almost a hundred people/families signed up to be bell ringers for the Sal-
vation Army, people signed up to wrap gifts for Angel Tree, shoppers for
the Hebron House and stocking stuffers for the Teen Center. We signed up
to take things in for the stockings and then will probably stay to stuff
stockings as well. It should be great and I love to see the kids give.
With all the many mistakes we make as parents, it is good to see them
have this faith and growing as Christians-putting others first and not
being afraid to tell others that they believe!! God is so good!!

Wow-time flies!!

I can't believe it's Thursday already!! This week has flown by! Monday we went to get our Christmas tree and started our Christmas shopping. It was fun! I always love shopping with Marlon and then coming home and hiding the bags.
Marlon is trucking along in his class. He is getting ready to start his next paper-so that is good. He is hoping to finish this class by the start of January. I am considering school in the fall of 06'. Elmbrook has a study center that is linked with Trinity College in IL, so I could take all but one of my classes there to get a master's in Biblical Studies.
Work is amazing. I love my job and it is so great to love who you work with as well. There are some busy, busy days and last minute requests-but it is always a joy to work together. Today we spent all day preparing gifts for Sunday school--about 800 gifts in all!! What fun.
The boys are coming in from Boys Club so I am gonna go see how it was!
Nite

Busy Busy

This is definately a busy busy weekend. Last night we
had a going away party for Jan (and Tim) Ryder from church.
They are wonderful friends of ours who are leaving
Elmbrook and returning to Nairobi for missions. We will
greatly miss them. I know Marlon especially with Tim
because he is such a great mentor to him...he really
taught him so much and Marlon respects him so much. I
have always thought of them as such a great example of a
ministry couple. They are so complementary, yet they are
so individual and such their own people with their own
agenda and walk with Christ.
Then today was Dee Dee's graduation party. There were
errands to run in the morning, then food to cook for the
party. Then we picked up her gift, went early to set up,
and got home at about 10-what a long day! Dee Dee enjoyed
herself-which is the whole point! It was nice that so
many people came, because I know that in the cold and busy
days of December it's hard to get people out...but many people
came to show her love. Uncle Jerome started the "presentation"
part of the night, having several of us say some short words
of encouragement, love, etc. for Dee Dee. He ended it by
making sure she knew just how proud of her everyone is. She
then got up and thanked everyone-then opened her gifts. It
was a nice night.
Now tomorrow is church (Marlon will be in prison in the morning)
That always sounds so funny!! And then my candle party in the
afternoon. We may go and get our Christmas tree afterwards, if
the place is still open. We'll see.
Well...it's off to bed for me now. Just wanted to take a few
moments and let everyone know what's been up :)
Nite

Pomp and Circumstance...

Graduate!! Yes! Marlon's sister DeeDee graduated last night from ITT! We are so proud of her, her dedication and perseverance! There were many obstacles against her and she kept going! Last year right before Christmas her paternal grandfather died and then this summer Granny-so she's dealt with loss and pain, but she's made it though. It was a very quick ceremony-only about 25 people graduated...but afterwards we all went out to this place called Elsies? or Elses? It's downtown Milwaukee off of Jefferson I believe. Anyway-it was very nice and we all got to meet her boyfriend. She just looked so old...she grown and matured so much since I first met her in 96!! Wow-almost 10 years. That means she was only like 14 when we met! Bizarre!
On a different note, tonight is a Christmas women's program at church. There is going to be an amazing speaker and worship led by Stephanie Seefeldt. I'm going with my mom, aunt and sister and it's always a good time. Plus I love Stepanie's voice...it's like an angel just wrapping their arms around you. Thanks to my dad for coming to watch the boys so I could go. Marlon has his bible study and Jordyn has Outtasight.
Anywho----congrats again to DeeDee!!!!!

Just some thoughts before bed....

So as I read back over Saturday's post, it hit me that I had
not shared the crazy news that happened on Friday. I was hit
by a car. Well, actually our car was hit by a car. This man
didn't stop at his stop sign and turned left right into me.
Totally smashed the front right corner of the car and took out
the light! Ahh...yes, I do not have a lot of luck driving!
Unfortunately, he did not have insurance...thankfully we do
and my parents were able to let us use one of their cars for
a few days. So good that nobody was hurt...he didn't leave
the scene...we were able to get the car right in to the shop.
God can just always make good of any situation. I think the
man was suprised by my calm demeanor and ability to have
compassion for his situation (no insurance, expired license)
but I guess all of my car wreck experience came in handy!!
Anyway...today Marlon's been gone since 9:30am and when he
comes home he will have driven over 500 miles today!!! When
he goes to Stanley it is always a long day, but tonight he
added New Lisbon which has two services...so it added quite
a lot of more time to the day. The rest of us went to my
parents for lunch after church, then came home and decorated.
All that's left is the tree and outside lights. I inherited
a lot of my Grandma Nickel's decorations after she passed in
2001...it always brings a smile to my face to see them out.
I can picture her apartment, before that their house in
Montello...full of these decorations; and I can hear her laugh,
see her smile, feel her love. Isn't it amazing how wonderful
our minds are?? That we can remember and be right back in
that place of comfort?? That we can still have those moments-
have them?? Maybe not in flesh...but most certainly in spirit!

More than gifts....

It's a great Saturday morning...there is a light snow
falling. The boys are downstairs playing (and I hear
no arguing!!) Marlon is at the table writing a sermon
and I am back and forth between cleaning/laundry and
the computer. Gonna get all of the Christmas decora-
tions out today and put the fall stuff up. I used to
be all neurotic about getting everything up in one day.
Not anymore.
If it takes a week, that's fine. I just get all of the
boxes and crates out and then work on it. We're getting
a real tree again this year, so that will come probably
this week. Tomorrow Marlon will be gone ALL day...he
has two prisons to go to.
I have been planning this Christmas for my old client/
friend Crystal. Many of you who read this have probably
helped out so you know all about it. I have to tell
you--God is amazing!! So many people have stepped forth
to help out...extend themselves for someone else. What
they are going to give the Green family is so much more
than stuff. Do you know what it's like to imagine
that people you don't even know, care about you? Are
concerned that you have a special Christmas? That you
have toys for your child? It makes my heart swell that
He can take something that started out as an idea to help
someone I care deeply about...and turn it into a testimony!
Crystal and I have grown closer since I left Lad Lake.
The talks we've had...the encouragement I can give her...
the sharing His love. I am filled with joy just
thinking about it. My deepest heartfelt gratitude to each
of you for being so thoughtful and generous. Their lives
will never, never be the same and many of you have been a
part of that incredible blessing!!
Back to laundry!!

So much to do...

It's December 1st!! Marlon will officially let us start listening to Christmas music now at home-YEAH!

I love Christmas. I always have. Before being a Christian,
it was more because of the gifts, lights, hoopla...but now,
I just see it as this peaceful, festive, time of hope. There
is always such hustle and bustle, but it's important to slow
downa and enjoy each moment.

There are some great things going on at our church...check it
out on the web. Look under events for upcoming stuff.

Above all else, remember that Jesus is the Reason for the Season!
So as you open your millionth gift and eat your hundredth cookie,
say HAPPY BIRTHDAY JESUS!!

Busy...busy...

What a great few days. Busy with family and friends. It was so nice to have a 4 day weekend and hang out with the kids. Tonight was especially amazing because Marlon and I went to John Burke Correctional together for the first time in months. Normally we are scheduled the last Sunday of each month, however, with some different worship teams picking up dates, I did not have to go along the last few months. Since I was in New Mexico with work in August, I haven't been there since July! I could truly feel God work in me. It's difficult to explain the way that sharing the gospel and showing His love ends up impacting yourself. But it does. When I worship, whether it's with the kids at Elmbrook, in prison or with the congregation at church...I feel the spirit fill me with strength, peace and clarity of mind. It's so much more than singing...it's a whole experience of bringing me closer to Christ.
Marlon had a great opportunity to go to Waupun Correctional on Friday and lead a bible study. He doesn't get there as often as some of the other institutions in the state, so it is always welcomed when he does.
Busy week ahead this week. Monday our landlord is coming over...there may be a possibility of buying our house, Tuesday Marlon is always gone to Norris, Wednesday I have a haircut, Jordyn has Outtasight and Marlon has his bible study, Thursday is the holiday party for Teen MOPS. Then we are to Friday again :)

Happy Thanksgiving!!

Happy Happy Thanksgiving all!
I truly do love this day...even with the chaos of the
cooking. Our Thanksgiving tradition will
change just a bit with Granny gone this year. We
will still go to my Grandma Calderon's. Everyone
gathers there throughout the day. All in all,
about 65 or so of us :) There are two turkeys,
a ham, tons of sides and desserts. As our family
grows it is getter more crowded, but personally
I love it. It wouldn't be Thanksgiving if it
wasn't that way.
Around 4 or 5 we would travel onto Granny and Pops
house where she would have a Thanksgiving meal
prepared as well. Normally Uncle Keith and Aunt
Gerri, Niecy, Aunt Gean, and sometimes Paula and
DeeDee, Uncle Jerome and Auntie Brenda would be
there. This year, with Granny gone, Niecy, Uncle
Jerome and Aunt Brenda took Pops down to Florida
to spend Thanksgiving with Philip, Lanetta and her
fiance Ansley. I totally understand the thought
process that it might make Thanksgiving easier for
Pops to be out of the house and doing something
different. It is hard though, because even if we
didn't spend the bulk of the day there, it was
always important to go and eat,visit, get one of
Granny's hugs...I know Marlon is going to have a
hard time today. We all are in some way I am sure.
I don't think a loved one can pass on without there
always being an empty space on holidays or special
occasions.
But today we are going to be Thankful, as we should
be everyday. Really. There is way too much in life
to be thankful about. Health, family, clothing, food,
another day to get it right, employment, a car,a friend,
education, freedom of religion, freedom of speech,
Christ's love and faithfulness, salvation, children's
laughter, a hug from someone you love, Grandma's and
Grandpa's, a home, music...the list could never end.
Too often we concentrate on what we don't have...not
the house or car we want, not making the money at a
job we want, not looking the way we want, losing a
loved one too soon for us, divorce, lack of support
in our lives. While there are some devastating things
that can happen and difficult things to face...have
faith that God knows your days and path and his desire
is to bring you salvation and peace. We just have to
accept it!

She's a braniac...lol

Well we got Jordyn's report card today.
A couple of weeks ago, a few of her
teachers made the comment that she should
probably be in AP classes. After seeing
her report card, I know why.
English A+
Child Dev. A+
Keyboarding A+
German II A+
Earth Science A-
Phy Ed A
US History A+
Algebra A

She is such a hard worker and we couldn't
be more proud of her! Although she is a
little perturbed that she only got an A-
in science :) She told Marlon and I that
she is going to talk to him to find out
why that is!

Such a special day...

What a special day it was today. Seeing Isaiah baptized really affected me emotionally more than I thought it would. It was wonderful to see him take such a step to make an outward expression that he is going to give his life to Jesus and he wanted everyone to know about it. It meant a lot to him that so much of our family was there. Aunt Annie, Billy and Stephanie came-which was so nice of them. Nana, Dee Dee and Neicy came too which was so nice. Then Connie and Rod with Nia, Baba and Papa (my parents), Aunt Darlene and all of the kids stayed back from Sunday school to see him be baptized. Hearing the words that he said-about how he wants everyone to know he loves Jesus and be a better Christian made me proud. I know that being prideful is a sin, but the feeling of joy brought tears to me eyes.
Then we went to Baba and Papa's for tacos-yummy! Then on to the Xmas parade. Even though it was pretty cold, it didn't seem as bad as other years. I think we did a better job of bundling up :) Alicia (my cousin's daughter) was in the parade this year so that was fun to see her on a float.
While hanging out at Grandma's, I coordinated a friend and her mom taking over a Thanksgiving basket to Crystal and her sister's. As most of you know, Crystal is one of my clients/ex-coworker/friends. God has been so good in bringing forth people who are willing to join in together to help Crystal and her sister's have a great Thanksgiving and Christmas. I can't ever stop praising His name!

Wonderful retreat!

The retreat was so great! The main session speakers were
phenomenal...fun and honest, really made you think.
Marlon and I really enjoyed speaking together for our
session. It seemed to go well and I hope that the couples
that came to hear us speak were able to take away something
useful or were at least encouraged by another going through
the chaos. :)
It is amazing to see what God can do with your life. Just
4 years ago...Marlon and I were on the brink of divorce...
unwilling to budge on our own beliefs of how marriage should
be, unable to forgive past hurts, and underestimating how
important our marriage was. Now we are at a place of unity
and joy...able to resolve conflict and see things from another
perspective. Do we ever mess up? Oh yes. Do we ever act out
in anger and hurt each other's feelings? Oh yes. But we know
that God is in control and He is the center of our marriage.
How can I not love and respect a Godly man like Marlon? How
can he not love and cherish a Godly woman like me? Even on
the days when we are not behaving in the most righteous way...
we know that our first priority is to be get right with God
and He will put the other things in place.
Much much thanks and love for my parents who kept the boys over
night and allowed us to have such a relaxing time knowing they
were well taken care of. I can't explain enough how wonderful
they are to us and how much we appreciate them!
Alright...on to laundry and the dishes.
Tomorrow Isaiah is getting baptized. If you think of it...say
a little prayer for him, as he is a little nervous about it.
Thanks!

Blessings...

What a blessing to work in an environment where prayer is
encouraged, unity is valued and respect is abound-even when
people don't see eye to eye. A day without gossip?? What a
novel idea!
Can you tell I am loving my new job? The tasks are going to
be more about time management and don't seem as if they will
cause me a lot of stress. The ministry is very encouraging
and seem to want input about innovative and creative ideas
for programming and activities.
It has been an utter joy and I can't do anything but praise
Him for what I have been given! What an opportunity! Thank
you Lord for continuously blessing me with your abundance and
favor...when I am so unworthy of it! The phone calls and
emails with my former clients who want to keep in touch show me
that this move was right. We've been able to openly talk
about faith, church and I can encourage and pray for them in a
way that I could not when they were my clients.
Look at your lives. Relish in the good. Even amidst the pain
and turmoil there is good. He is faithful and just and knows
the bigger picture. Have faith that He has your best interest
at heart.
Jeremiah 29:11 says, "For I know the plans I have for you,"
declares the Lord, "plans to prosper you and not to harm you,
plans to give you hope and a future." Believe it and your
whole life can change!

Flashback to the Philippines...

As some of you know, Marlon went to the Philippines this summer.
This picture shows a family that the ministry visits each week.
The father was incarcerated and had recently gotten out. The
family lives very far out and away from any city. The ministry
visits with them, brings them money and food, shares the gospel
with them.
In our culture and way of thinking, there is no way to explain
the extreme poverty that this family experiences. Marlon learned
that many of the prisoners in the Philippines are incarcerated in
horrible conditions.
More about this later...just wanted to share this experience.

My First Day...

So today was my first day at Elmbrook, I must say that
it was wonderful! So inviting, so fun, so open...such
a different environment from where I came from at Lad
Lake. To start the day with prayer...to end meetings
with prayer...to see passion and respect in people's
eyes...very awesome. Will it be perfect-of course not!
But it will fill me up with the Lord and with His love,
challenging me to strengthen my walk and be that light.
On my way home, I got a little teary eyed, thinking of
how proud Granny would be that I was working at the
church and how she told me before she died that I was
supposed to do ministry full time. Little did she know
how soon that would come to pass.
My job is going to be very full, which I love because it
helps the day go faster. There is just always something
to do. As the next few days and weeks come to pass, I am
sure that I will encounter feelings of being overwhelmed,
but it so reassuring to know that if I need to stop to
pray or need to ask someone to pray with me, I can without
any issues.
And thanks, thanks, thanks to the Lord for giving me this
opportunity when He did, because I found out today that
there were some major changes at my old job that would
have made staying there unbearable for me.
On another note-Saturday is the big day!! Marlon and I
will be speaking at Elmbrook for the Coulple's Retreat.
Keep us in your prayers as we finish up our preparations.

The Kids...

Aren't they cuties? Jordyn, Isaiah, Elijah and Israel with their Auntie DeeDee. You can see the Pitchford in her with that great smile!

These are some pictures from Marlon's sister's wedding. Erin got married Labor Day weekend. Marlon is with his dad and Grandfather and with Erin and Yolanda his sisters in the other. It was a really pretty wedding and it was so special to be a part of her day.

Adios Charm!!

So we''ve had a cat for a little over 5 years. She initially
started out as a substitute for a dog...since we weren't quite
ready to get a dog yet. Also, Jordyn really wanted one. She's
been a little bit of a pain. Because we finally did break down
and get a dog she still has her claws. So furniture is her
favorite scratching post. Also, she loves being outside. So
she loves to run out when the door opens and hang around until she
decides she's ready to come in. She has made friends with all of the
neighborhood street cats. To the point that they have even come on
our porch calling for her. Since she decides to come home long after
we've gone to bed-this has meant dozens of torn
screens in the years we've had her. Marlon has become an expert at
replacing screens. She also is not much a people cat...what cat is
actually? But with her it's to the point that you'd barely know we
had a cat!
So today, we are taking her to our friend's farm and
she is going to get to be a loved farm cat!
Between the outdoors, other cats and the chase of little rodents...
I think she's gonna be in heaven!
No more litter box-yeahhhhhhh!!

Time just flies...

I tell you, trying to leave a job with not much unfinished is very tiring...lol. The past few days have been very hectic.
Work-it is very exciting to know I am leaving and quite honestly, I feel it is going to open another chapter in my life. Not that Elmbrook won't have it's stress and conflict as well, but I am really anticipating working in a positive, healthy environment!
Home-there just never seems to be enough time, between activities, meetings, ministry, cleaning...I just pray that I am doing it all in as loving and caring of a way as I can.

Tonight the boys move into a new sport-basketball. Elmbrook is having a basketball league this year and although practices and games don't start until Jan., they being skill evaluations tonight. They are very excited. So far we've stuck to the soccer and baseball, so this will be new for them. Marlon will coach--by the time they are all in high school, he probably will have coached for every sport there is!! But it's so great to see him out there with the boys teaching and training.

Jordyn has Outtasight tonight. This is Elmbrook's high school ministry. It is held in different "sponsor" homes and the youth are divided by their school. She really loves her group and it has been wonderful to see her faith grow and her conviction for her beliefs be strenghtened.

You know that means for Momma?? Woohooo I get some peace and quiet!

Just a fun, relaxing Saturday...

Although Marlon had a Brother Bob's Outreach board meeting
early in the morning on Saturday, there was nothing else
to do than help celebrate my Aunt Annie's birthday. Her
4 kids and boyfriend threw her a great suprise party on
Saturday night. It was so special, complete with a really
beautiful portrait for her with all 4 kids and 7 of her
grandkids...her closest cousin visiting from Texas and her
son's band playing. For as large as my family is, and as
different as we all are...as I looked around the room on
Saturday there was nothing but love there. How blessed to
have a family that comes together and enjoys each other's
time and shares in each other's triumphs.
This picture is of my Aunt Annie and her daughters. Becky
is on the left and Jackie on the right. Becky and Jackie
decided to party like their mommy used to in full disco
style!

Some of what we do....

Go to a prison, you say?? How scary! How sad!
How empty the souls must be! The liars there,
the sinners there, the evil that must exist!!
Look at this picture...and see them...praying,
full of hope and with faith for what their Lord
can do. Amazing, life changing things. Marlon
and I are blessed beyond measure with the great
privelege of ministering to these men and women.
This is a minimum security facility for women
here in Wisconsin. We were given permission to
take some pictures for footage on the website and
for Marlon to use for outreach. Once a month,
Marlon and I go together to lead service for
this facility. God is doing amazing things in
the hearts and lives of these women.
I think the most special thing is after they have
gotten out and I might see them on the street
or in church and they come up to us with a big
smile or hug and thank us for the love and care
we showed them while they were incarcerated. It
is more than enough reward to know that it makes
even a little bit of difference!

Kind of exciting...

November 18th and 19th is when Elmbrook is having their in house Couple's Retreats. Marlon and I have been part of the committee for two years now and it really is a fun group of people to work with. This retreat will be our first where we will be speaking. We are leading a seminar topic called "Marriage in Chaos". How fitting, huh? It is going to be such fun and has really been a bonding experience for us so far. You can see all about it www.elmbrookcouples.org
Check it out! Also, please keep us in your prayers as you know Satan will be even more alert with this coming up.

On another note, the kids and I had a busy week at Harvest Fest. I really enjoyed serving and they always love going and hanging out with their friends. Find a church. Not just any ole church...but one where there is impact being made for God's kingdom and one where there is a family atmosphere and compassion for others. I know that has been a monumental piece of my growing in Christ.

Saying Goodbye...

It has been an interesting week at work...you don't always
realize the impact you're making. So many of my clients
are really upset that I am leaving, but at that the same
time really happy for me that I am getting to move on to
something that is important to me. There are a number of
them that I will keep in touch with, especially the New
Mexico group. (8 of us went to a conference in New Mexico)
I really tried to assure them that there are other people
out there like me...who will encourage them, care about
their lives and futures...they just need to open up once
in awhile.
I am honored and proud that they would have the mature
responses that they have had.
If anyone would like to see an article about a couple of
our clients and what their lives are like after foster
care there is supposed to be an article in this Sundays
Milwaukee Journal Sentinel. I say supposed to because
initially they told us it would be in last week-so you
never know. We've been told that it will be on the front
page!
The exciting thing for me I guess is that I can still help
these youth. I can volunteer, donate needed items, send
emails or encouraging letters...it doesn't have to end with
my "9 to 5". I encourage each of you to challenge yourself
to leave your comfort zone and really get in somewhere to
make a difference. Not just giving your money. That, of
course, is needed and valued, but find something or even
someone that touches your heart and make a personal impact.
Work at a shelter or food pantry, join project angel tree and
deliver gifts to the children of Wisconsin inmates, visit
with the elderly in nursing homes that nobody else comes
to see. The country is full of people in need of love,
compassion and help. It is not just taken care of by
social service agencies. Funding and staff are certainly
lacking and there is always more to be done.
Okay, off my soap box now...lol. Have a blessed day!!

your heart

Marlon

If September was a slower month of weekend prison travelling for Marlon, then October and November are certainly going to make up for it! It is a good busy...a good chaos...how blessed he is to be able to do what he loves and touch so many lives each week. I wish that you, especially those that support him, could see God working through him. The impact that is made on the men and women incarcerated in Wisconsin is amazing. To see new Christians discover salvation and weep at the Lord's mercy...to see Christians who strayed from His path-return and recommit their lives to Him...to see the rejoicing and gratitude in their eyes that someone would take their time to care about them. God is good and He has a faithful, devoted servant in Marlon. I am proud to be his wife and full of love for his compassion for spreading the gospel.
If you would, please pray for his strength as he is still grieving the loss of his beloved Granny and his focus on identifying some new institutions to work with.

Love and respect your husbands ladies. They are not perfect, but neither are we. Don't be a hindrance on their walk with the Lord, help them by encouraging them and lifting them up in prayer! Do not expect what you are not willing to give.

Yeahhhhhhhh!!!

God is so good. I've said it before, let me say it again.
God is so good!! So a few posts ago, I spoke about a job
at Elmbrook Church that I did not get. And how even though
I really wanted it, I was content with not getting it,
because I knew that must have meant that it wasn't the time.
Then a little over a week ago, I found out that the person
who had been hired-quit. Hmmm.... So I sent a little
e-mail and voicemail just to let them know I'd still be
interested and low and behold-they offered me the job on
Thursday!! It so exciting and I am so thankful that I had
this second opportunity. What fun it was to go in and give
my two weeks!! (Sorry, that was a little mean...)
My title is Administrative Assistant for the Children's
Ministry. You would be suprised at all of the administrative
tasks that go along with a ministry the size of Elmbrook's
Children's Ministry. Since the ministry is broken down into
subgroups (based on age), the Admin. Assist. is also the hub of
the department-connecting all of the areas and linking the
staff to what is going on.
November 14th will be my first official day at Elmbrook. There
are so many things that I am going to enjoy. No commute-it's only
about 7 minutes from my house. No unethical red tape-there aren't
political ties that determine how the director makes changes.
No stress-while I am sure that there will be some-it certainly
won't be to the level that I have now.
Thank you Lord for giving me this opportunity. I will take it and
make it Yours! Giving back freely and fully to your kingdom!

Just some morning rambles...

Well it's been a few days...the stomach flu struck the Pitchford house. The worst was probably Sunday with a little lag over for mom on Monday. There nothing worse for me I think than being sick. It's very hard for me to slow down and relax and do absolutely nothing around the house...lol! Marlon says sometimes it's like a blessing because he knows that I'm at least getting rest and not overworking myself.

So the soccer season is almost over. Any soccer moms out there? Then you can relate to these pictures! The cold! Oh my goodness it gets sooooo cold out there! I have to say with Marlon as the coach, the boys have really come a long way this season! Isaiah and Elijah are our soccer boys. Every fall and spring for the last three years, 8 weeks are devoted to soccer. As they've gotten older and really developed skill and passion for the game, I've seen it become an outlet for both of them. Isaiah-it's helped him become a very confident leader. Elijah-it is such an energy release and a place he can get frustration out. I know some people think competitive games aren't necessarily a good thing, and it'd be nice if there was always a tie...but that just isn't life. There sometimes are winners and losers. Doesn't make anyone "better" than anyone else, but it does teach them that they aren't always on top. As good as they get...sometimes a team is better. If the odds are stacked against them and they pesevere, don't give up and fight to the end...they've learned the self respect of giving their all. It's also a time to learn that everybody can't be the best as everything. We all have gifts and talents and sometimes are better suited for other things. Lastly, as parents and coaches we can help them learn good sportsmanship whether they win or lose. How winning can make you feel happiness, and losing can make you feel a little sad...but it's still just a game and life goes on.
Just some morning rambles...

HE is in control...

So I am not that incredibly happy at my job. While I love feeling like I am contributing to society in a positive way...there are many problems where I work and I keep getting the feeling that there is something more out there for me. Unsure what God has in store for me. I am not the kind of person who is only involved in social issues on the job, it is who I am. The ministries that I participate in, the charge I get from seeing others find success, the satisfaction I feel when I have helped someone else-been a true servant...it is not just an "on-the-job" thing, it's the way I try to live my life. So when I applied for the job at church and didn't get it, I must admit I felt a little let down, disappointed. There was a part of me that wanted to say, "Please...don't I deserve this? Just think of the impact I could have if I wasn't so stressed at my 9 to 5?" But who am I?
I have a verse on my computer at work. It helps remind me in times like that...that God is always looking out for me...always has my best interest at heart. I just have to rely on that. 1Peter 5:6-7 "Humble yourselves therefore under the mighty hand of God, that He may exalt you in due time: Casting all your care upon Him; for He careth for you" I don't have to know why or how something happens...He does and if I continue to put all of my trust in Him, only good can come of it.

Izzy's Birthday!!!

My baby is 7. I guess that means he's not a
baby anymore, huh? It is so strange and odd
to me that so much time has passed since he
was born! He is definately the youngest-
kind of a momma's boy (ok-not kind of), the
ruler of the roost and sen-si-tive...ooh that
boy is sensitive!
So I guess on everyone's birthday I will take
some time to tell you all a little bit about
them. Izzy demanded attention and to be
heard from the start-he was quite the crybaby
as an infant. He has always been my shadow, and
I know that I helped create that. He was the
last and I knew that, so I wanted to hold onto
that "babyness" as long as I could. He also
got to be in childcare by himself-so he has
always had his own identity and independence.
My cousin Tessie took care of him, mostly at
my Grandma's house next door-so there was
always a lot of ladies to dote on him. My Grandma,
my Aunt Linda, Tessie, my Aunt Mary was there
alot too. This helped Izzy come into his own
and not just be the "little" brother. I was
then able to stay home from work for just about
a year with Izzy. This made him even more
of my shadow!! :)
Izzy loves to clean. He is the only kid I know
who would cry because he couldn't wash the dishes
when he wanted to! He often goes into his room,
takes all of his clothes out of the drawer, and
then refolds them!! He enjoys dusting and
mopping. He also has an obsession with promptness
and following through. If you tell Izzy that
something is happening at 2-it had better happen
at 2! We actually find ourselves telling him to
loosen up and not worry so much about things.
Hopefully this is somewhat of a stage since he can
finally tell time on his own. Otherwise Marlon
jokes that he will have trouble hanging out
with the guys when he's older. Can't you see him?
"Oh-it's 11:50-curfew at midnight-we'd better get
a move on!"
Izzy knows who he is. He has confidence and a sweet
heart. He doesn't let anyone mess with him. Sometimes
he can see a little too tough-but he is always going
to make sure that if someone picks on him, they don't
do it again. Bullies beware because if you make him
mad, you will end up crying!
As I see him grow and change, my 4th child-it awes me
how God can make each of us so different. Their
uniqueness is wonderful and I pray daily for his
safety, his health and spirit, and his continued love
of Christ. He is only ours on loan, a gift from God
that Marlon and I get the privelege of building up
in Christ, so that he can follow God's path for
his life.
Happy Birthday, my sweet busy, Izzy!!

Weekend fun...

Another busy weekend passed at the Pitchford home. On Friday, Jordyn
had a birthday party to attend for a friend. Her paternal great-
grandmother went to Heaven last week and the wake/service was Friday
night, so I went to that. Her father's family has always been so kind
to me and even though Tom and I never married or stayed together, they
have always welcomed me.
Saturday brought another soccer game-and the team that beat us the
first time 7-0, we tied 1-1. It was a great game and the boys played
so well! It is so wonderful to see how they've improved over the season.
Jordyn spent the day with her dad's family and we took the boys to
lunch as a reward for their hard work. Then I had a wedding shower for
a young lady from Teen MOPS. She recently got married and we wanted to
help her start out with a small celebration. Saturday night I watched
my niece for a bit because my sister and brother-in-law took the boys
for ice cream and to the store. After visiting for awhile, having a
great conversation with my sister-in-law DeeDee and getting everybody
in bed, I headed next door to my grandma's house to watch a movie with
my grandma, aunt and cousins. Have you seen Crash? If not, you
should...it is almost painful to watch because it is so true...the
racism and prejudice that exists.
Sunday Marlon was up and out early (6am)for Taycheedah. The rest of
the crew got up and off to church about 9:15. After Sunday school and
service, we went to lunch with everyone (parents, Aunt Darlene, Connie
and her kids) even Marlon got to come as he was back in time. After
lunch, the grandparents took the kids bowling. I went along to help
keep an eye on everyone! Finally home, there was time to visit at my
grandma's a little bit again, grocery shop, get some laundry done,
finish up homework and finally-sit and rest!
God is so good! There is nothing to do but praise Him for such great
blessings all weekend. A life lived that touched so many! Health and
strength in our kids and their good sportsmanship, food and shelter,
the financial means to care for our family! A young lady excited at her
new marriage and hopeful of it's endurance! The ability to touch others
with His love and truth through worship, singing, and example. My cousin
Tony is enjoying church and is seeking ways to make positive changes in
his life! Thank you Lord for giving us more than we ever deserve!

Focus...

For the past months I have been praying for a little bit of
focus in where I should put my time and energy-ministrywise.
I have been involved in numerous ministries for the past few
years. Couples Ministry, Children's Ministry, Teen MOPS,
Brother Bob's Outreach...then those other one or two time a
year things like counseling at Breakaway or serving during
Harvest Fest at Elmbrook. I enjoy them all and the people
that I have become friends with are amazing! Perhaps because
I am outgoing and an overachiever by nature, it was so hard
to make the decision myself. Praying for God's guidance was
a natural request to make. Thankfully, God always knows when to
hit us over the head with reality. Wednesdays-when Teen MOPS
is held, was always a great day to be away. Marlon had his
bible study group at church, but Jordyn did not have any
activities. MOPS started at 5:15 (Marlon didn't leave until
just about 6) and was done by 7:30. This meant I could be home
in time to hang out with the kids for awhile and put them to
bed. Things change. Now that Jordyn is in high school, her
youth ministry meets on Wednesdays. She is loving the Lord and
we certainly don't want to limit her time spent in fellowship
with other teens who aren't afraid or ashamed that they have
chosen to put Christ in their life. Marlon attempted to find
another night for his men's group to meet, however, he was the
only one with a conflict on Wed. He needs this group and this
time. Aside of being his true, close friends, they are also
his accountability partners. The other wives and I talk about
how we can tell when they haven't had each other to turn to.
So my "handle it all" nature, leads me to start brainstorming
about how I am still going to get to Teen MOPS, who can I get
to watch the boys...until suddenly, God kind of hits me on the
head. Listen to the spirit. What have you been praying for?
So the decision to let Teen MOPS go was made for me. Just as
I prayed. I almost didn't listen, I almost put my concerns
and my judgement over HIS!
It got me thinking, howe often do we do that. Miss His answer
to prayer, because we are so busy trying to come up with the
solution ourselves? He is going to know what we can't see.
He has the master plan of our lives and it could be so much
easier if we would just follow His lead. We don't know, He
knows!
1Peter 5:6-7 Humble yourselves therefore under the mighty
hand of God, that He may exalt you in due time; Casting all your
care upon Him, for He careth for you.

Night of rest...

So yesterday when I left work I had the worst headache. The
kind that makes your eyes hurt and makes you feel nauseous.
When I got home, Marlon sent me to bed and took care of every-
thing! He called his bible study group to say that he wouldn't
be there, he got Jordyn off to youth group, took the boys to the
library so the house would be quiet and gave them their showers-
put them to bed. I slept from about 6:30pm until 11:30pm!!
After waking up for a couple of hours, I went right back to sleep
until this morning. It felt so good to sleep and even though
there is a little bit of the mommy guilt that I wasn't there...
it's so wonderful to know that I have a husband who is not only
able to handle everything, but is willing to do it!!

So proud....

Okay-so the proud mommy is gonna boast a little bit!!
Jordyn's progress report came back with 5 At and 3 A!!!
She also was given a letter from her principal that her
math teacher has recommended her to be a peer tutor!
She is loving school and I am so happy to see her coming
out of her shell and enjoy life!
Isaiah has chosen to get baptized this November. Our
church practices "believer's baptism", which basically
means that baptism is done when a youth or adult is ready
to make the statement that they believe in Christ and want
to show that in an outward expression of faith.
Elijah continues to work very hard on his schoolwork and his
last progress report noted that he always does his best and
takes his time. I am proud that he is consistently working
on improving and showing how diligence pays off!
Israel is still the charmer...he was given his first gift
from a girl in school yesterday-her bracelet! Of course, he has
to return it, but it's kind of sweet :) He continues to be
my shadow, doing everything he can to help around the house
and keep up with his brothers!
Okay...that's enough for now. I could go on all day!

Just another day...

I can't believe it is the 11th of October already. This year has really
flown by. That sounds so cliche', but it's totally true. I think time
does travel faster the older you get :)
Tuesdays are just another day. No major activities for anyone but Marlon.
He is the chaplain and spiritual advisor at Norris Adolescent Center in
Mukwanago and works Tuesday nights for a few hours. Jordyn is part of
the stage crew for the fall play so she stays after school until November.
So here's a question: When your life is so busy and full-how do you find
time to yourself?? I have struggled with that over and over in my adult
life. A few weeks ago when I was sick and had to stay home from work, I
realized that it is a great time to be alone when all of the kids are at
school and Marlon is working as well. Now that particular day wasn't much
fun because I was sick and slept pretty much the whole day...but a random
vacation day DURING THE WEEK sounds like it will work out great!! Keep that
in mind all of you mommies who work outside of the home as well as inside!!
Love to all of you!

Me & Marlon

This was taken at Kasie & Chris's wedding in May 2005. Hard to believe we've been married ourselves for almost 8 yearsssssssssssssssssss!!
Marriage isn't always easy and if you know us, you know we've had our hard times, but God is good and when we trust in Him, He can make everything right.

Our little lady...JORDYN

Here's Jordyn-all dressed up and some place to go!! She is a freshman in high school now, if you can believe that!

Those handsome Pitchford boys

Here are the boys. From left to right:
Israel, Isaiah and Elijah. It is amazing how they are such individuals...even being so close in age. I look at them and how they've grown and it's hard to remember them as little babies! You'll be seeing a lot more of them!

1st Entry!!

Here is our new site. Very new to this, so it may take a little bit to get used to it. However, as much as I like to talk and write-I don't think it will be a problem. Thought it would be fun to keep an online journal and keep in touch with what's new in our lives at the same time.